Other options remain if fertility treatments aren’t successful, or if you just decide not to bother going that route. Adoption is one possibility. Besides psychologically preparing yourself for the idea that you are not having genetic offspring, here’s what else you should know. The cost is $10,000 to 20,000 through a private adoption agency. The cost is $20,000 to 30,000 or more if adopting a child from another country. Public adoption agencies generally cost less, but private adoption agencies usually take less time. To find out more about adoption, visit the Canada Adopts.
A Perfect Match
Kristina, 41, an Ottawa mom decided on adoption after trying to have a baby for about six years. She and her husband had winged it for six months, then turned to fertility treatment, which included trying fertility drugs, two IVF cycles, and experiencing two ectopic pregnancies. Adoption took a year and a half but was worth the wait getting that much hoped-for call from the Children’s Aid to tell them they had a six-month-old little girl waiting for them. “It was a match made in heaven and we couldn’t be happier,” says Kristina, whose daughter Paige is now 18 months. “Genetics doesn’t matter—the infertility process is so humbling and you want to be parents so badly. So when you get a child, you feel you are truly blessed.”
Types of Surragacy
Surrogacy is another consideration, and there are a few variations. A “gestational” surrogate is when a woman has egg and sperm of the parents-to-be implanted and carries the baby until it’s born. A “traditional” surrogate is inseminated with the intended father’s sperm but uses her own egg, so genetically speaking, the baby is half hers. Surrogacy is either paid for or not—in Canada, it’s only legal when the surrogate isn’t paid by egg and sperm donors. Federal law prohibits commercial arrangements, so it’s illegal to compensate the surrogate mother in any way, such as money, gifts, free trips, etc. Want to know more? Here’s info about the law and surrogacy in Canada.
From health factors that can affect fertility to drugs that increase fertility, we have much more information on conception in our Ultimate Fertility Guide.