Adoption and Surrogacy: Beyond Fertility Options

Can’t conceive? You may want to consider adoption or surrogacy. Get the facts about Canadian adoption and surrogacy laws, plus helpful links in this primer.

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Other options remain if fertility treatments aren’t successful, or if you just decide not to bother going that route. Adoption is one possibility. Besides psychologically preparing yourself for the idea that you are not having genetic offspring, here’s what else you should know. The cost is $10,000 to 20,000 through a private adoption agency. The cost is $20,000 to 30,000 or more if adopting a child from another country. Public adoption agencies generally cost less, but private adoption agencies usually take less time. To find out more about adoption, visit the Canada Adopts.

A Perfect Match

Kristina, 41, an Ottawa mom decided on adoption after trying to have a baby for about six years. She and her husband had winged it for six months, then turned to fertility treatment, which included trying fertility drugs, two IVF cycles, and experiencing two ectopic pregnancies. Adoption took a year and a half but was worth the wait getting that much hoped-for call from the Children’s Aid to tell them they had a six-month-old little girl waiting for them. “It was a match made in heaven and we couldn’t be happier,” says Kristina, whose daughter Paige is now 18 months. “Genetics doesn’t matter—the infertility process is so humbling and you want to be parents so badly. So when you get a child, you feel you are truly blessed.”

Types of Surragacy

Surrogacy is another consideration, and there are a few variations. A “gestational” surrogate is when a woman has egg and sperm of the parents-to-be implanted and carries the baby until it’s born. A “traditional” surrogate is inseminated with the intended father’s sperm but uses her own egg, so genetically speaking, the baby is half hers. Surrogacy is either paid for or not—in Canada, it’s only legal when the surrogate isn’t paid by egg and sperm donors. Federal law prohibits commercial arrangements, so it’s illegal to compensate the surrogate mother in any way, such as money, gifts, free trips, etc. Want to know more? Here’s info about the law and surrogacy in Canada.

From health factors that can affect fertility to drugs that increase fertility, we have much more information on conception in our Ultimate Fertility Guide.

2 responses to “Adoption and Surrogacy: Beyond Fertility Options”

  1. Ruby says:

    To my mind, if you want a kid but can’t spawn one of your own more advisable will be to consider adoption. Adopt instead of wasting thousands of money on a selfish and needless procedure. Whilst I appreciate the heartfelt and natural desire of many infertile couples to have their own children. I nevertheless don’t believe it is right that IVF should be available. Particularly when it is time of severe spending cutbacks. I don’t believe than IVF indeed to become much cheaper procedure than adoption. To me it is ridiculous. In the meantime, adoption is a very responsible and wonderful role for any adult to take on. And it’s should be more promoted to infertile couples. In addition, there are natural ways to increase fertility. I mean the Foresight program which can have very real. It has benefits without the expensive and high tech IVF. Not without reason, in many countries there is a ban on such procedure. A is available and popular in the poorest countries with a weak economy. For example Thailand or Ukraine.

  2. Norah Tucker says:

    I see we have people suggesting adoption for IVF patients. Why? What experience do you have? Can you put yourself in my shoes? I’ve endured six rounds of IVF with just one pregnancy that ended in miscarriage. I’m not a career woman who wanted to wait; we began trying to have a child when I was in my twenties. In short I’m human like you with a heartfelt desire to be a mum to my baby. I can’t. It takes so long to get through the process of exploring why one can’t have children, to get to IVF. To find out that your PCT doesn’t fund beyond one cycle and then to save up for private treatment that there are two reasons why adoption isn’t always suitable. With husband we put the last hope into medical Centre in aforementioned Ukraine. You to know It`s rather famous. Their reproduction center in the capital offers good price for all-inclusive package. And provide high level service. Plus in case of 5 unsuccessful attempts, clinic will give our money back. That is why we choose it. We fly the next month and pray that it wouldn’t be another disappointment. Back to adoption, maybe one day I will adopt a child, but it will be for very different reasons than those which drove me to undergo IVF cycles.